Wednesday, April 1, 2015

"Coincidences Are Just God's Way of Remaining Anonymous" - Albert Einstein

I've been remiss about recounting the miracles and blessings of the past week.  A week ago Saturday, after two months and lost hopes, Isaac found my wedding ring hidden in the most random place-the crevice between his bed frame and mattress.  I had set that Saturday apart for deep cleaning my room and his.  The hope and intention was to find my ring which we’d assumed the girls had taken from the bathroom counter.  But when the day of cleaning came, I was thinking more about the organization and dejunking that needed to happen, than I was about looking for my ring.  Actually, I wasn't thinking about my ring at all.  Isaac was working on his room and had the vacuum ready to suck up all the garbage in the nooks and crannies.  Chris had the thought to make sure he picked up the big stuff first.  And my ring happened to be in the big stuff.  Isn't God good? 

The next item to tackle was the missing library book.  It had been almost two weeks, and I was stressing over that more than my ring.  Silly, really.  But the idea of that extra quarter being charged daily to my account made me tense.  I had searched everywhere.  Every book on every shelf.  Under the couches.  Inside cupboards.  The van.  Backpacks.  Even asked Grandma if she’d seen it.  There was no where left to look.  I kept praying and asking for help without so much as a hint of direction.  Then Saturday, I said another sort of prayer as I wandered around.  “Heavenly Father, I’d much rather spend my time doing family history work, so if you’ll tell me where that book is, I’ll devote that time I would have spent searching doing family research instead.”  And then I corrected myself,  “I’ll do the family history work anyway, but if you could help me find that book, I’d really appreciate it.”  Then I let it go.  Sunday afternoon, I spent a few hours working on familysearch.org.  The most addicting website, I've discovered.  Later, I went to put the girls to bed.  I randomly decided to reach for the pink book bin up on the top shelf.  As I browsed through the books, there it was.  The book that had gone missing two weeks previous.  Was that not correlated to the prayer I’d just said the day before? Again, God is good.

March was also month of extra expenses.  I felt impressed at a home-school conference to purchase a math training program that I believed would help London.  (More on the miracles happening there on another day.)  Other expenses surfaced putting me in a position where I needed to find an extra $500 in the budget.  Tight as we already are, but not willing to dip into savings or take more from the business, I set about praying for ways to make that extra cash.  I cut back on the food budget and got creative in the kitchen with pantry items.  I looked at upcoming expense and knew exactly how much was needed to keep us a float for the rest of month.  And then the miracles started happening.  I sold Mishel’s printer, (another miracle story to an answered prayer).  I got an unexpected check from Young Living.  I sold 6 qts. of anti-plague.  A few of my expenses were actually postponed, and when the end of the month came, I still had money in the bank.  I believe in miracles.

On to the printer miracle.  Mishel put her printer into my possession back in October.  It took me a while to post on KSL, but we hoped for a bite by Christmas.  Not so much as a nibble came.  In February I lowered the price by half.  Still no one contacted.  I called a friend in the pawn shop business and asked if it was something they would take.  The feedback was obvious.  Electronics are hard to sell, you have to lower the price and keep your item on the front viewing page.  A little overwhelming, and time consuming to consider.  The following Monday, as I was pondering, I said a prayer pleading for help.  I wanted to be spared the time and energy that could be put to better use elsewhere, and I prayed that Heavenly Father would help me find a buyer.  Less than three hours later, I had a phone call.  Or a missed call and voice mail, I should say.  I returned the call and left a voice mail.  The highest stress came from wondering if I’d missed the only opportunity as I waited for him to return my voice mail.  But it came.  He bargained for a lower price.  I explained how we’d already lowered it so much, but not wanting to lose the sell, I said we could probably drop it another $10-20.  And felt somewhat deflated.  He came by.  Nice guy.  Friendly to the girls.  Didn't bother me to take the whole contraption out of the packaging but said, “It looks like it’s been well –taken care of” (Good job, Mishel!)  And then asked if he could write a check.  Another deflation.  Checks are risky.  But it was a business check, and I consented.  (Never been one to say no to others.)  He made some comment as he handed me the check, but I didn't quite hear it.  As soon as he left, I went to make a mobile deposit and saw he’d actually written the check for the entire amount I’d posted it for.  My heart swelled.  I felt so much gratitude.  I sent him a quick text of thanks.  His response, “Tell those cute girls they just made mommy a few extra dollars.”  I will have to remember that!  I might have to include them on all my business transactions.   

Was it coincidence that this buyer came the same day as my plea to Heavenly Father?  No.   A kind God intervened to answer my desperate prayer.   

I can’t finish this recounting with out sharing the blessing that came from serving last week.  I’d signed up to help a sister in the ward with cleaning her house.  The day came and I felt miserable.  Head-achy miserable.  Whole-body miserable.  But I went anyway.  That’s what you do.  And I helped for an hour and a half.  I came home and wanted to just fall in bed.  But there were things to do.  One of them being that I’d been reminded (more like informed, I don’t remember having been told before) that Isaac was in charge of an exposition for the boy’s group.  Pilots-of freedom.  A sort of book club/leadership club for a group of fifteen home-schooled boys.  And Isaac was in charge of teaching them all how to make something.  Nope.  Not gonna happen.  I needed to lie down and not get up for the rest of the day.  I let him take action and figure it out.  He brought out a book of boy crafts and found one that looked easy enough, only needing three materials.  It seemed doable, we only needed to buy balloons.  Chris could pick them up on the way home.  Oh, but wait.  We also needed toilet paper rolls.  And fifteen.  That would be impossible.  Or would it?  At that moment I remembered something.  Earlier that day while cleaning up the neighbor’s bedroom, we’d come across a bag of empty toilet paper rolls she had saved for a  project which never got completed.   A quick text , a quick search, and a dive in the dumpster and she had them saved for me.  Okay, really she just took the plastic bag out of the garbage can, but diving in the dumpster sounds more exciting.  Or daring.  Either way you look at it, that saved the day.  Isaac was able to do his project.  Again, coincidence?  I dare not assume so. 

I feel such an abundance of love and gratitude for my kind and loving Heavenly Father who has intervened multiple times on my behalf this month.  He has blessed me beyond measure and shown me once again that He is over all.

Monday, March 30, 2015

Rewards and Choices

We start each morning with half an hour reading time.  I shouldn't say every morning, that's a bit of an exaggeration.  But at least 3 or 4 mornings each week.  The current read is still Wonder, by R.J. Palacio.  I mentioned how London feels about that book in a previous post.  I read about twenty minutes this morning and then informed the boys that I had a challenge for them.  Whoever could get their room and zone (best idea ever for picking up the house) cleaned up first would get to choose the reward for the whole family.  Three choices: 30 more minutes of reading, choosing a game to play as a family, or 10 extra minutes of screen time.  And as soon as I said screen time I wanted to retract. Why would I offer them more screen time?  Anyway, we turned on some music, started cleaning, and kept going for maybe 45 minutes.  Surprising, yes, but that wasn't the best part.  When we finally stopped cleaning, I told them they'd both cooperated so well they could both pick a reward.  My mama-heart leapt within me as they both called out in unison, "thirty minutes of reading."  So we read for an hour.  And I was worried about screen time...

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

How I Get My Kids Into a Book

London says, “I hate books that are so addicting you have to keep reading them.”  He references the one I just put down.  “Like that one.”  This morning, I started reading Wonder  by R.J. Palacio, out loud.  London was not interested.  I read it myself a couple weeks ago for book club and thought the whole time how good it would be for my boys.  But then I made the mistake of telling London what it was about-- a boy with facial deformities.  Not something he feels comfortable thinking about.  He wouldn't pick it up on his own, so I’m reading aloud.   London admitted there were some funny parts in it, but that wasn't enough to keep him interested.  Until I read a few more chapters at lunch.   That’s when he made the comment above.   And when I put it down, he said, “No keep reading.”  I knew it would be just a matter of time and I’d have them hooked.   Now I just have to keep myself composed as I read; something in that story just tugs at my mama heartstrings.  

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Van (July 1, 2012)

We bought a new van last night.  Well, actually it's a used van.  But new to us.  It's not our dream vehicle.  I've never been a van fan, but it's practical, and it fits our needs.  As we were driving home, the excitement was almost too much to contain.  I was enjoying all the amenities we didn't have in our last vehicle-a 1989 Chevy Suburban.  I can roll down my windows.  I can turn on the A/C.  I can listen to the radio.  I can use the inside lights.  And since it can go faster than 50 miles an hour, I started thinking about road trips.  Going on more field trips.  Freedom!  But the best part- we paid cash.  That's what made it so satisfying.  We've sacrificed for months to save up.  We've gotten by with an embarrassment of a vehicle for three years in order to stay away from debt.  So even though we are starting out with 160,000 miles, I'm feeling grateful.


Friday, June 18, 2010

Mormon Messages

I’ve been bawling over Mormon Messages all morning. How pathetic am I? Not that I’m crying over tender stories (everyone should engage in that once in a while), but to think my life is so difficult. Compared to the stories of young boys growing up on the street, never having enough to eat, getting excited over a soccer ball, or a new shirt to wear, my life is wonderful. (watch The Boys Home http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYrNBpJly9s&feature=player_embedded ) I have all that I need. Or compared to the woman who lost her beautiful face in a plane crash and will have to endure the rest of her life with pain and strange looks from others because of the burns she suffered, my life is sweet. (watch My New Life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHDvxPjsm8E&feature=player_embedded) My husband, children and I are all healthy and have no physical deformities. We have all we need. In the same week that we received the glorious news that the little girl we’ve fallen in love with will be able to stay in our family forever (more on that later!), I succumb to self-pity over boys not doing chores. How pathetic. Fortunately for me, I’ve been restored to a greater perspective. I’m grateful for the reminders in Mormon Messages that life is more than what happens to us. It's all about how we respond to life, and how we reach out to others. It doesn't matter if my boys don't get there chores done on my schedule every day, but it does matter that they feel my love for them.